Abortion Healing Psychotherapy Mukilteo, WA

Maybe you are one of the many women or one of the many men, who have disturbing feelings following abortion. It is more
natural than people usually think. The hysterical debates based on denial or moral supremacy in politics makes the
situation even worse. The possibility of abortion touches highly sensitive values like life, motherhood, child, personal
freedom, freedom of reproduction, or the question: who's interest come first? Ours or our offsprings'.

In my personal opinion it would be strange if someone didn't experience some confusion encountering this highly
controversial area. Although generally loudest are who state there is only one truth about this topic. Of course it's theirs.

Extreme No 1: DENIAL

You can hear here and there, that abortion cannot cause emotional disturbances... Excuse me? Everything else like
accident, surgery, loss of a loved one, workplace stress and others except for abortion! Hardly defendable opinion! Most
probably it derives from ego-protection: If there is no harm could have been done, there is no pain. And if there is no
pain, then one has nothing uncomfortable to face. But as denials avoid facing the problem, they avoid solving it as well.

Extreme No 2: MORAL SUPREMACY

Other camp handles the situation with huge outrage, contempt against sex outside wedlock and the abortion too, usually the
name of religious or other moral values. Of course, contemption helps neither to solve the problem nor to heal the
wounded; moreover it makes the trouble worse by forcing to keep it in secret. Looking down others helps to boost the
person's own self-esteem and self confidence. You cannot count with these people's emotional support, it simple doesn't
mix with moral rejection.

THE SENSE OF THE BLAME GAME

If someone answers to your complain that: But you did it! But you wanted it! It makes you feel rejected, right? Making
this kind of statements seems to be rational, doesn't it? But this is not: because you hurt yourself, still it hurts, and still
it has to be healed! Indeed it says: "I don't want to empathize with you!" This saves them to feel your pain, but prevent
you to get help from them.

WHY DO I WRITE IT TO YOU?

-Because I know how discouraging is to meet these opinions.

-Because I want you to know, that I don't do any of them. I accept if you think you have a real problem, and I am willing
to work on it with you!

-Because I don't think that I or anyone else is better than you, I have my own values, but you don't have to share them!
You are expected to work out your own individual value system, which can be different than mine. I have no expectations
about your religious affiliation. You can have faith, any kind, but you don't have to.

-Because I will not blame you what happened. It is completely indifferent who is to blame when we looking for
understanding and solution.

WHAT CAN I OFFER AND WHY IS IT DIFFERENT?

I offer psychotherapy without supposing that religious practice is necessary for healing. You don't have to be faithful
member of any church - although you can be, if you want to. Psychotherapy is dealing with your emotional needs and
personality development. If spirituality is an important part of your everyday life, then we include it in the therapy. I
want to help you to clarify your priorities and values. I want you to understand how these collided in the case of
abortion, and how they contributed in causing distress to you! I want to help you to get over on the anger towards
people who took part in your decision. I want to help you to grieve what you have lost, and give respect to say good bye
to it. Finally I want you get a kind of closing, when you can live your life peacefully with this memory, learning the most
what you can learn from it.

If you have problems, admitting it you are very brave to overtake the task to face it. Facing your pain you made the
first step towards healing. I know how hard it is, but I encourage you to continue working yourself through all the
contradictions, sorrow, hopes, disappointments and every hard feelings until the full recovery! Don't worry! Maybe you
don't see it at the moment, but there is way out from the deepest misery. People can survive incredibly harsh events, the
soul is able to settle down again. Psychotherapy is proven to be one effective method to help the soul self-healing power.